28 May 2015

Loc'd and Happy

There are times when I look back on my hair journey and sigh with great relief and contentment. This is because I decided to do something that was considered 'outside the norm' in some of the circles I was part of, but still did it anyway. I was truly past the point of caring about other peoples opinions and just wanted to be true to myself for once in my life.

You might be thinking, "Who cares what you do anyway?"

For most of my life I have let external attitudes and opinions guide my decisions, even though it made me feel uncomfortable, but mostly because I felt accountable. Some of these considerations were family, friends, colleagues, clients and the church environment. Yes, it was important to me that I always give a positive impression in whatever environment I found myself, and most of all continue to be a good example to my children.

Yet I watched many others turn their fingers up at bureaucracy, by doing exactly what they wanted to do without there being any real repercussions. It eventually began to feel like I was in some sort of bondage.

You might also be thinking, "But it's only a hairstyle!"

Yes, it's only hair but not just a hairstyle. It's also a huge statement. It's an expression of pride in my black heritage. It speaks of my decision to put aside the popular/acceptable ideals of westernised beauty standards and embrace the true nature of my kinky coily hair. It says, I'm proud of my blackness and I no longer wish to conform. It shouts, I am beautiful too and I don’t care if it intimidates you.

So yes, allow me a moment of reflection as I look back over my 5years and 3months of loc'dom, because it makes me feel so happy to be my true self. I'm free at last...free indeed!

"Don't remove the kinks from your hair. 
Remove them from your brain."
- Marcus Garvey

25 May 2015

Intentions and Expectations

A little history
When I first started this blog it was a private space for my personal self-expression, just like an online diary. It gave me the freedom to write about anything and everything, without any constraints. Then as I started to write about my hobbies and interests, I decided to make it public.

Lifestyle Blogging

I'm sure you know that the best thing about having a lifestyle blog is the freedom to write about anything that takes your fancy. This has come in handy for someone like me, who is a creative at heart with a broad range of hobbies and interests, so you can expect to see some very random posts on here. To give you more insight, I will list out the main topics of interest you are most likely to discover on my blog.

My Life
What's the use of having a story and keeping it all to yourself? There must be someone out there who needs to hear it.
Sharing aspects of my personal life, past and present, I often go back down memory lane, and revisit the many events that have had a huge impact on my life. Some of which are very personal but in choosing to write about these experiences I have been able to work towards a place of healing and maybe find closure.

My Faith

In sharing aspects of my Christian faith, I attempt to reveal the spiritual part of my life that can be often held in check. Not because of fear or shame, but to exercise caution and apply wisdom. This is only because I have learnt that it is better to let your actions speak louder than your words. There are too many well-meaning people who are quick to quote the scriptures and proclaim their faith from the roof tops, but their nature and actions are far from it. I do not say this in judgement because I have been there before and have learnt my lesson the hard way.
My walk with God is very simple, but even the most basic of ideals can become extremely complex when we lose sight of the truth. The truth being, the Word of God. It's as simple as that.

My Loc Care
It's been over five years since I've been loc'd. Sharing my passion for natural hair, especially when it comes to loc care and my personal hair journey, is one of my favourite topics. As I discover new products and tweak my hair regimen, I get to share my experience and feedback with you.
I get loc questions via email and messages on Facebook, so I always try my best to answer or point them in the right direction. I'm not a loc 'guru' but more than happy to share any tips that have helped me over the years.
My Natural (and other safe) Health and Beauty
Over the years I have used a lot of products for my loc and skin care. I love to use natural products but have also tried other products that have helped me achieve my health and beauty goals. Even though they are not all natural, after much research and trial and error, I have deemed them safe for my personal use. I get to recommend such products to you but only to be used at your own discretion.
My Creativity
Sharing my writing projects, photography, art and handmade jewellery is another favourite of mine. As previously mentioned above, I am very creative at heart and it is only natural that I share some of these with you.

Writing projects:
Check out my writing projects listed at the bottom of the homepage for progress on word count.
Check out my TNP Scribble posts for my original artwork
Handmade jewellery:
Check out my TNP Waistbead posts for my handmade African waistbeads or visit my Etsy store.
My Intentions

I will be introducing a new schedule for the blog, so that you have a clear idea of what to expect in the coming months. So for this, I will be running a small poll to get a better feel for what you would like to see on this blog.
A short poll has been created on the bottom of this page. Please take the time to scroll down and answer the single question by selecting one or multiple options provided below. I want to hear from you. Your feedback is extremely important.

I am aiming to do more random but 'small personal giveaways' from me to you, just to show my appreciation to all of you who have been supportive, and taken the time to stop by my blog.

My Expectations
Apart from writing about the things that I love, I equally aim to create the right type of content that you are looking for, so please play an active role in providing your feedback.

Also as previously mentioned earlier in the year, if you have been a regular on my blog and enjoy reading the content then, now is the time to join in and really get involved. You can now join the mailing list by entering your details to get regular updates on the latest news.  This is an exciting time, and I look forward to getting to know you all much more.

Thank you all for your support so far.

26 April 2015

Super Woman

In my head I'm always writing. Putting words together and exploring the best ways to express my thoughts. There is so much I haven't said, and it wears me down, and like acid it's burning an invisible hole in my gut. Memories that make me toss and turn in the middle of the night. Thoughts that make me groan out loud, and curl up in the foetal position.

During the day, all expressions are schooled and emotions kept under wrap because it's time to be super woman. Serene and calm like a Swan gliding on calm waters, while all the real frantic mechanics remain hidden from the public eye.

How many traumatic things can happen to a person during a lifetime? You would think that if one or two really horrific things happen, then maybe you're home free. The true answer however, is that there are no real guaranties in life. There are no limits to the bad things that can happen to you, whether you’re a Christian or not.

There are the traumas of my past, and the very present day nightmares that I have learnt to live with. I have never talked about these things, mostly because I don’t think anyone would believe me. It would probably sound like I was making it all up.

A few years back, a young singer was invited to share at church one Sunday. I had only recognised him because I'd seen him once before, when he sang at a small concert I had also been singing at in London. He started praying for a few folks who had gathered by the pulpit, so I sat down on the back row and bent my head in prayer. Then an usher tapped me on the shoulder, because this young man had asked for me to come forward. I immediately cringed because I was feeling self-conscious, but I was also feeling tired from being on my feet for too long. I was still feeling raw and tender from my recent operation, but despite the pain and discomfort I still made my way to the front of the Church.

This young man took one look at me and started shaking his head. Raising his voice he said "What more can the enemy do to you that he hasn't already done? The enemy has been tormenting you for a long time. The only reason why he would pay so much attention to you is because he knows what you’re meant to do. You are a threat to the enemy." Then he prayed for me.

I hate crying in public, but I sobbed my heart out that Sunday morning, because only God could have revealed the depth of my pain. This young man had caught a glimpse of my big secret. I stood there and sobbed, with tears streaming down my face and my clothes sticking to the sweat on my broken body.

My secret was out.

10 April 2015

TNP Waistbeads - New for Spring 2015

Viola Waist Beads (purple + hot pink)

This single strand set of waistbeads consist of purple and hot pink glass beads, accentuated with silver and clear white beads. Also includes a blue and pink bead as centerpiece. Very stunning and sleek finish, made to fit sizes 22-40 inches. 

9 April 2015

A quick peek in the mirror

The sun has really come out to play today, which can be a rarity in London, and as I look outside my window, I can hear the birds chirping away happily. I love days like this. They make me want to close my eyes and imagine that all is right in the world.

30 March 2015

Stacking Waistbeads

Sometimes I enjoy doing a mix and match with any waistbeads that have similar tones. This time I have selected three different single strand waistbeads and combined them to create this lovely stacked effect.