7 August 2013

Dealing with hurt


We have all been hurt at some point in our lives but some more than others. Hurt like pain can not be measured and can affect us on an individual basis. Some of us have higher pain thresholds while others are very low indeed.

If pain is not addressed it can scar you for life. These scars are internal, can be very deep rooted and have a direct or indirect impact on your mental and physical health for the rest of your life.

The damage can spread like cancerous cells and invade your whole being. It can go undetected for years until the symptoms begin to manifest on the outside.  A manifestation that is often triggered off by the onslaught of more hurt.

Some of us are able to talk about our experiences while most are afraid to voice it out in the open because doing so would mean having to re-live the whole traumatic and emotional experience all over again. The outcome could be healing or just might tip you over the edge of sanity.

The damaged walk amongst the living like zombies. Damaged Soldiers locked in their own battle from the remnants of a conflict that took place years ago.

Some of us are trapped in abusive situations that continue to inflict pain so much so, we have accepted this as the norm and dutifully endure, eventually becoming damaged beyond repair.

Some of us simply can no longer cry out for help believing we've already passed the point of no return. Others let the hurt fuel their anger and lash out at others in frustration wanting them to feel a little of the torment they are enduring every day of their lives because they are consistently dealing with feelings of self-hatred and malice. Then the abused becomes the abuser.

Steps for dealing with hurt

Seek help

Stop whatever you are doing and seek help. Asking for help does not mean you're weak, it's important to realise that we all need somebody to lean on at certain times in our lives. It's time to stop dealing with things on your own. 

Talk about it

It's time to open up and talk about your pain. You can only work through the issues by talking about your experiences. Bottling up your feelings does more damage than good.

Break any cycles of abuse

Remove yourself from any unhealthy relationships. It's time to make a change in your immediate environment. Surround yourself with people that will encourage and support you. People who inspire and motivate you to be the best that you can be. This could mean letting go of people you have been very close to.

Change your mind

It's time to change your mind-set. This means getting rid of all the negativity deep rooted within your own thoughts and attitude. This can only be achieved in the right environment. It will take time, determination and commitment on your part. You have to personally want to move on from your past experiences so that you can have a better quality of life. Only you can make that decision.


Living a prayerful life will help to heal your past. It will also set the stage for your future and get you through life one day at a time. 


Learn to forgive yourself and everybody else. Forgiveness is the main key to opening up a happier future for yourself and all your loved ones. It will free you up to move on.

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